 | You're Wearing That?: Understanding Ms and Daughters in Conversation
By Deborah Tannen
ISBN: 9781400062584
Published: 2006
Number of Pages: 272
Edition: Other
Binding: Hardcover |
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Publisher: Random House
Description: Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship.It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own. Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives.“Tannen analyzes and decodes scores of conversations between moms and daughters. These exchanges are so real they can make you squirm as you relive the last fraught conversation you had with your own mother or daughter. But Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations (or the way that we feel about the conversations) before they degenerate into what Tannen calls a mutually aggravating spiral, a "self-perpetuating cycle of escalating responses that become provocations." – The San Francisco Chronicle |
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306.874/3Main Entry - Personal Name
- Personal name:
Tannen, Deborah - Personal name:
Tannen, Deborah.Title Statement
- Title:
You're wearing that? - Title:
You're wearing that? : - Remainder of title:
understanding mothers and daughters in conversation / - Statement of responsibility, etc.:
Deborah Tannen - Statement of responsibility, etc.:
Deborah Tannen. - Medium:
[electronic resource] :Varying Form of Title
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You are wearing that?Edition Statement:
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1st ed.Publication, Distribution, etc. (Imprint)
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0604Physical Description
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272 p. - Extent:
272 p. ; - Extent:
p. cm. - Dimensions:
25 cm - Dimensions:
25 cm.Bibliography, etc. Note
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Includes bibliographical references (p. [249]-259) and index. - Bibliography:
Includes bibliographical references (p. [257]-259) and index - Bibliography:
Includes bibliographical references (p. [257]-259) and index. - Bibliography:
Includes bibliographical references and index.Formatted Contents Note:
Can we talk?: Mothers and daughters in conversation -- My mother, my hair: caring and criticizing -- Don't shut me out: the importance of being female -- She's just like me, she's nothing like me: where do you end and I begin? -- Stop this conversation, I want to get off -- Wanted: Mother-a job description -- Best friends, worst enemies: a walk on the dark side -- "Oh mom...BRB": how E-mail and instant messaging are changing relationships -- Blending intimacy and independence: new ways of talking.Citation/Reference Note
- Name of source:
Booklist - Name of source:
Libr Journal - Name of source:
Publ Weekly - Location within source:
December 01,2005. - Location within source:
November 01,2005. - Location within source:
October 24,2005. - Location within source:
September 01,2005.Summary, etc.:
Mothers and daughters do not speak different languages--but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Tannen explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.--From publisher description:
Mothers and daughters do not speak different languages--but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Tannen explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.--From publisher description.Target Audience Note:
Adult.Reproduction Note
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Electronic reproduction. - Place of reproduction:
Palo Alto, Calif. : - Agency responsible for reproduction:
ebrary, - Date of reproduction:
2006. - Note about reproduction:
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Available via World Wide Web.Local Notes:
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Communication in the family - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Communication in the family. - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Conversation analysis - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Conversation analysis. - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Interpersonal communication - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Interpersonal communication. - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Mothers and daughters - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Mothers and daughters. - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Parent and adult child - Topical term or geographic name entry element:
Parent and adult child.Index Term - Genre/Form
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local. - Genre/form data or focus term:
Electronic books.Added Entry - Corporate Name
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ebrary, Inc.
