Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Abusive and Controlling Men By Lundy Bancroft ISBN: 9780399148446 Published: 2002 Number of Pages: 432 Edition: 1st Binding: Hardcover

Pricing & Availability: Additional Details: Product Type: Book Publisher: Putnam Adult Description: In this groundbreaking book, domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft uses his unique perspective as a therapist for abusive and controlling men to help women, their children, and other family members who have been touched by abuse understand why abusers behave the way they do and what can be done about it. Bancroft teaches women how to survive and improve an abusive relationship; how to determine how dangerous an abuser is and when it is impossible to rectify a situation; and how to get out of a relationship safely. Bancroft identifies nine types of abusive men, addressing different styles, from the physical batterer to the strictly verbal abuser. He dispels the pervasive societal myths surrounding abuse, exposing common excuses used by abusers, such as having experienced an abusive childhood or substance addiction. Bancroft answers commonly asked questions, such as what warning signs of abuse to look for early in a relationship; what is and isn't abusive behavior; how to know if a woman and her children are in danger; and how to tell when a man is really changing. Why Does He Do That? gets to the heart of abusive men's thoughts and behaviors, making it a vital resource for victims of domestic violence, their families, and professionals. This empowering book gives women the tools they need to get back in control of their own lives.

Library of Congress Control Number
   - LC control Number:  2001048850
   - LC control Number: 2001048850

International Standard Book Number: 0399148442: 0399148442 :
   - Terms of availability: $26.95

Geographic Area Code: n-us---

Library of Congress Call Number
   - Classification number: HV6626.2
   - Item number: .B255 2002

Dewey Decimal Classification Number
   - Edition number: 21
   - Classification number: 362.82
   - Classification number: 362.82/92/0973

Main Entry - Personal Name
   - Personal name: Bancroft, Lundy.

Title Statement
   - Title: Why does he do that? :
   - Remainder of title: inside the minds of angry and controlling men /
   - Statement of responsibility, etc.: Lundy Bancroft.

Publication, Distribution, etc. (Imprint)
   - Place of publication, distribution, etc.: New York :
   - Name of publisher, distribution, etc.: Putnam's Sons,
   - Date of publication, distribution, etc.: 2002.
   - Date of publication, distribution, etc.: c2002.

Physical Description
   - Extent: vii, 408 p. ;
   - Extent: xxiii, 408 p. ;
   - Dimensions: 24 cm.

General Note: Includes index.

Bibliography, etc. Note
   - Bibliography: Includes bibliographical references (p. 391-400) and index.

Formatted Contents Note: Note on terminology -- Introduction -- Part I : Nature of abusive thinking -- Mystery ; Mythology ; Abusive mentality ; Types of abusive men -- Part II : Abusive man in relationships -- How abuse begins ; Abusive man in everyday life ; Abusive men and sex ; Abusive men and addiction ; Abusive man and breaking up -- Part III : Abusive man in the world -- Abusive men as parents ; Abusive men and their allies ; Abusive man and the legal system -- Part IV : Changing the abusive man -- Making of an abusive man ; Process of change ; Creating an abuse-free world.

Summary, etc.: In this book, domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft uses his perspective as a therapist for abusive and controlling men to help women, their children, and other family members who have been touched by abuse understand why abusers behave the way they do and what can be done about it. Bancroft teaches women how to survive and improve an abusive relationship; how to determine how dangerous an abuser is and when it is impossible to rectify a situation; and how to get out of a relationship safely. Bancroft identifies nine types of abusive men, addressing different styles, from the physical batterer to the strictly verbal abuser. He dispels the pervasive societal myths surrounding abuse, exposing common excuses used by abusers, such as having experienced an abusive childhood or substance addiction. Bancroft answers commonly asked questions, such as what warning signs of abuse to look for early in a relationship; what is and isn't abusive behavior; how to know if a woman and her children are in danger; and how to tell when a man is really changing.

Subject Added Entry - Topical Term
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Abusive men
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Domestic Violence
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Family violence
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Men
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Victims of family violence
   - Topical term or geographic name entry element: Wife abuse
   - General subdivision: psychology
   - General subdivision: Psychology.
   - Geographic subdivision: United States
   - Geographic subdivision: United States.